What he texts, what he means.
By Victoria Lucia
Your phone beeps with a new text from the guy you're seeing. Sweet! But while reading the message, excitement turns into confusion as you think what the hell does he mean? To save you from standing around and scratching your head all day, we rounded up some common messages and figured out their real meanings.
He texts: We should go out sometime.
He means: I dig you, but I'm not sure if you like me yet.
"He's tentatively reaching out since he's not suggesting a specific time," says Kristina Grish, author of The Joy of Text. "He's testing the waters without risking rejection."
"He's tentatively reaching out since he's not suggesting a specific time," says Kristina Grish, author of The Joy of Text. "He's testing the waters without risking rejection."
He texts: I had fun 2nite.
He means: I want to see you again.
Clearly, you rocked because he totally did not have to send this text. "A guy won't think to do a follow-up unless he's really into you and wants to make it happen again," says dating coach Liz Kelly, author of Smart Man Hunting. "Plus, the fact that he's texting you immediately after the date, as opposed to waiting a few days, says that he's not afraid to show his feelings."
Clearly, you rocked because he totally did not have to send this text. "A guy won't think to do a follow-up unless he's really into you and wants to make it happen again," says dating coach Liz Kelly, author of Smart Man Hunting. "Plus, the fact that he's texting you immediately after the date, as opposed to waiting a few days, says that he's not afraid to show his feelings."
He texts: What u wearing?
He means: Let's have a naughty exchange.
This guy, whether it's a new dude or your long-term beau, is up for some R-rated fun (even swapping sexy photos), and this line puts the dirty-banter ball in your court. "He wants to see if you'll volley back with something a little playful and provocative or just shut him down," says Kelly. But play it coy (for instance, nix the nude photos). "Depending on the guy," says Kelly, "being too over the top could backfire."
This guy, whether it's a new dude or your long-term beau, is up for some R-rated fun (even swapping sexy photos), and this line puts the dirty-banter ball in your court. "He wants to see if you'll volley back with something a little playful and provocative or just shut him down," says Kelly. But play it coy (for instance, nix the nude photos). "Depending on the guy," says Kelly, "being too over the top could backfire."
He texts: What u up 2 L8R?
He means: Wanna meet up and go home together?
Chances are you've received this between 8 and 10 in the evening. "It's probably a mass text, which is sent to every potential hook-up in his phone," says Grish. "He knows that not everyone will reply, but based on the ones who do, he'll have a better sense of who's around." This playboy will keep in touch throughout the night and whittle down his hook-up options.
Chances are you've received this between 8 and 10 in the evening. "It's probably a mass text, which is sent to every potential hook-up in his phone," says Grish. "He knows that not everyone will reply, but based on the ones who do, he'll have a better sense of who's around." This playboy will keep in touch throughout the night and whittle down his hook-up options.
He texts: Been busy at work.
He means: I'm over it.
Sorry, but if you reached out and this is what landed in your in-box, say days or weeks later, he's just not feelin' it. In fact, he's blowing you off. "Everyone's cell phone is practically glued to their bodies," says Herring. "Nobody is ever too busy to send a five-second reply."
Sorry, but if you reached out and this is what landed in your in-box, say days or weeks later, he's just not feelin' it. In fact, he's blowing you off. "Everyone's cell phone is practically glued to their bodies," says Herring. "Nobody is ever too busy to send a five-second reply."
