5 sex secrets all men have

Read his mind and enjoy the best sex ever
His sex secret #1
He craves being seduced
Read-his-mind tip: Take it in turns. Adopt a dominatrix role by slipping off his trousers and having your wicked way with him.

His sex secret #2
He chooses positions that make his body look good.
Read-his-mind tip: Crouch on all fours, sideways in front of a mirror, so he can see himself entering you from a flattering angle.

His sex secret #3
He exaggerates his sex CV
Read-his-mind tip: In bed, take his hand and show him the speed and pressure you'd like. Use words such as ‘here,' ‘slower,' and ‘harder,' and praise him when he gets it right. Those bed-notch fears will soon disappear.

His sex secret #4
He has sexual fantasies that will shock you
Read-his-mind tip: You don't need to explore your man's fantasies, but you do need to accept he has them. If you can handle it, probe a bit. "Try sharing your own fantasies in order to prompt some reciprocal information," says sex therapist Michael Perry.

His sex secret #5
He wonders if you're having a good time
Read-his-mind tip: Don't pretend to be a porno-style screamer, but if you have an urge to moan during sex, go for it. Hint: the more physically specific you are, such as groaning into the move so your bodies cling closer, the more he'll know you're loving it.

7 signs you’re not in the same relationship

How to tell if your relationship predictions don’t quite match up
1. He's never on time
You've been waiting nearly an hour and he hasn't turned up. When he does, he acts as if he's only five minutes late, not 50, and there's no attempt to explain his tardiness (again). If you're important to him, he'll be on time - or have a good excuse.

2.You're the butt of his jokes
If you're out with friends and you're the butt of all his jokes, it's because he's willing to risk publicly humiliating you. You shouldn't ever have to take this. Loudly point out that if he weren't so lacking in the trouser department, he wouldn't feel the need to pick on you.

3. It's you or the footie (and the footie always wins)
You need a lift/chat/foot-rub but there's a match on. Not a cup final or relegation match, just the usual 22 boys kicking around a bag of air. Do you get your lift/chat/foot-rub? No. When he can't make you a priority, alarm bells, not church bells, should be ringing.

4. Nothing worries him
You, on the other hand, never stop worrying. But he doesn't seem to be aware that you're troubled, even with what's practically a neon sign on your forehead reading, ‘I'm worried. Comfort me.' And even then he's not bothered. "When I'm committed to the relationship, her concerns are mine," says Julian, 32, an advertising planner from Kent. "If she won't share them, you can still see something's up. That insight vanishes if I'm not into her."

5. Rebel without a cause
Although he works nine-to-five, has a company pension and a Ford Mondeo, he's still trapped inside his teen-rebellion stage. The very idea of commitment and making the effort it entails is anathema to this free spirit. Give up. You're wasting your time. And, although he's never said so, he probably thinks you're wasting his.

6. He goes quiet. Deaf-ly quiet
You've shown him the parish chapel and asked ‘hypothetically' who his best man would be. His reaction? Nothing. Any man considering the relationship to be serious would react. Important matters, after all, require serious attention - but not if there isn't anything to consider.

7. You're a stranger to the rest of his life
Why is it you can never put faces to his friends' names? Because he has loads of friends you've never met. A man who's thinking long term tries to integrate his girlfriend into his life. The other possibility is that he doesn't have any friends. In which case you may want to reconsider this one yourself!

The secret tests men set you

The sneaky tests he sets you before he gets serious

Test tactic #1

Suddenly, he's more interested in activities that don't involve the pub, or drinking. Watch out! He's trying to test how you get on together without normal social distractions.Trump tactic Suffer it, smile, then force him into Topshop. See how he copes.

Test tactic #2

He's not sure you're willing to pay your way so has taken to leaving his wallet at home. Hmmm.Trump tactic Prove you can be generous (but hold him to that IOU).

Test tactic #3

Men are by nature, untrustworthy critters. So if you start getting flirty texts from his friend it's most likely a carefully orchestrated plan to test your loyalty. Trump tacticSend out ‘Thanks but, er, no!' texts. But don't tell your boyfriend. Let's see how honest his mate is.

Test tactic #4

Can you give as well as take? He may have been making all the moves up till now, but if he cools off suddenly he's most likely just waiting for you to initiate. Trump tacticGive - you'll receive in spades!

Test tactic #5

An intimate tete a tete has turned into tea with ten mates. Don't panic he just wants to see how well you get on with them.l trump tactic: If it's going to be a group thing, call up the girls. At least 10 of them.

10 Turnoffs That Make Good Guys Wave Goodbye

By Jeff Cohen Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Jun 17, 2007

You're sitting across from a great guy you met on Yahoo! Personals. You can't remember the last time a first date went so well. You're attracted to the guy. He has all the qualities you're looking for in a mate. He would even get your mom's approval.

The date ends and you actually have butterflies. Not only does this guy have second and third date potential, but you can smell a relationship. Unfortunately, a week passes and the cold reality sinks in that this great guy has no intention of ever seeing you again.

Where did you go wrong?

How could you have misunderstood what you thought was great chemistry? Maybe it's time you learned the top 10 turnoffs that make good guys wave goodbye. If any of these fictional female daters sound like you, it's time for a first-date makeover.

1.Misleading Maggie

Her profile says no kids, athletic and raking in the big bucks. The first date reveals two young kids, an extended waistline and unemployment checks. Nothing says trust issues for a guy more than lies from the get-go.

2. Insecure Ilene

She reads into every comment a guy makes. She wants to know right away if date #2 can be tomorrow. She asks you to call the minute you get home. This clingy nature screams of a potential needy girlfriend lacking independence.

3. Third-Degree Donna

The cross-examination begins before the menus arrive. The questions are coming fast and furious, and the guy begins to feel like the defendant on the stand in a criminal trial. If a guy feels stuck under the interrogation lights, he'll run for the hills.

4. Tardy Tina

She arrives late, she no-shows, she changes plans last-minute, she loses his number, she flat-out just doesn't respect a guy's time. Fashionably late is one thing; keeping a guy waiting 30 minutes or no-showing is unacceptable.

5. High-Maintenance Hilda

"Thanks for taking me to this nice restaurant, but couldn't you get a table by the window?"
The feeling that nothing is ever good enough makes a guy quit trying to impress. A simple thank you for a nice dinner is a better way to go.

6. Chatterbox Charlene

The conversation doesn't have to be 50 percent talking and 50 percent listening, but if she does all the talking it feels more like a seminar than a date. Charlene's opposite cousin, Pulling Teeth Patricia, is equally unsettling, making the guy do all the work.

7. Still-Hurting Sally

First dates are notorious for spilling the beans on what went wrong with prior relationships. Sharing an amusing anecdote is good; making it clear you're not over your ex-boyfriend is a definite no-no.

8. Game Player Gina

"Maybe I'll kiss you goodnight, maybe I won't."
Good guys like to know where they stand. They leave the game-playing for the sports field. There's nothing wrong with flirting, but just know when it crosses over into deception and confusion.

9. Conceited Colleen

"Any guy would be lucky to have me." Guess what, the great guy across the table is also a real catch. Stop assuming every guy doesn't deserve you, and then you'll be on your way to actually landing a good one.
Matrimony Maureen: He dips his egg roll in duck sauce when all of a sudden she spills the beans on what they should name their kids. Intense relationships can be exciting for a good guy, but walking down the aisle before you walk each other home for the first time is a turn-off.

10. Matrimony Maureen

He dips his egg roll in duck sauce when all of a sudden she spills the beans on what they should name their kids. Intense relationships can be exciting for a good guy, but walking down the aisle before you walk each other home for the first time is a turn-off.

5 ways to get more adoration now!

He'll be worshipping the ground you walk on

Ten per cent of men never say "I love you" and when they do, it often takes a super-human effort. But little tricks can accelerate his adoration." Emotional therapist, Jane Long explains how.
Arouse his protective side
"Men love to feel they're shielding you from the big bad world, so don't be afraid to drop your guard occasionally and let him look after you, say, if you're ill. It'll make him see you need him, so he'll be happier to admit to his ‘character fault'."

Ration yourself
"If you're like his prettier, stubble-free shadow, he'll start taking you for granted. Don't play daft ‘hard-to-get' games; just limit the time you spend with him, so when he does see you, he's overwhelmed with affection."

It's all in the delivery
"Men respond better if you do it light-heartedly, rather than an intense, gazing-deep-into-his-eyes way. And never ever demand he says it back. The next time you're both acting like big kids, just slip it into conversation, give him a peck and carry on with what you were doing. That way he won't feel under pressure, which men are generally allergic to."

The ‘take it in turns' rule
"If it's usually you who starts the ball rolling, bite your tongue. Make yourself a promise that he has to say it first every other time. If that means you don't hear it for weeks, so be it. He'll subconsciously miss you saying it and will feel the urge."

Drop the hints
"If all these ploys fail, simply say you'd like him to tell you he loves you more - some men just don't get hints! But also remember to notice the little things he does do that express it every day, whether it's making you a coffee while you laze in bed or spending hours trying to fix your damn hair straighteners."